FOUR FOR FRIDAY 38: FLIP-THROUGHS
“That’s the thing about books. They let you travel without moving your feet.”
— Jhumpa Lahiri
It’s been a while since I’ve shared the books that have deeply influenced me. In the past, reading was something I rushed through—just another task to check off the list, chasing the feel-good rush of dopamine and serotonin that comes with finishing something.
Lately, I’ve been challenging myself to slow down. I’m learning that the real value of reading isn’t in how quickly I can finish a book, but in how intentionally I can absorb what it’s offering. The lessons, the language, the emotions—they all settle in more deeply when I give them space to teach me.
Books have become a steady outlet for learning, reflection, and growth. I’m learning to let the words take root, not just pass through.
Here are four powerful pieces that have shaped me across four essential realms: self, health, spirituality, and relationships.
1.SELF: Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins
Why You Should Read It
If you're looking for a book that will challenge your mindset, push your limits, and redefine what you believe is possible—Can’t Hurt Me is it.
David Goggins, a former Navy SEAL and ultra-endurance athlete, shares his raw, unfiltered life story—from a traumatic childhood to becoming one of the toughest men alive. But this book isn’t just about physical feats. It’s about mental transformation. Goggins introduces the idea that we often live at only 40% of our potential—and that through discipline, suffering, and self-mastery, we can break through our perceived limits.
Reasons I Enjoyed It
Mental Toughness Redefined: Goggins doesn’t sugarcoat anything. His story is intense, but deeply motivating.
Practical Challenges: Each chapter includes a “challenge” for the reader—making this more than just a memoir.
Radical Accountability: He teaches you to stop making excuses and start owning your life.
Inspiration Through Grit: A reminder that resilience is built—not born.
A Quote That Sticks:
“You are in danger of living a life so comfortable and soft, that you will die without ever realizing your true potential.”
Can’t Hurt Me isn’t a feel-good read—it’s a wake-up call. If you’re ready to get uncomfortable and grow, this book will meet you there.
2. HEALTH: The Awakened Ape by Jevan Pradas
Ancient Wisdom for Modern Life
In a world that often feels overstimulated, disconnected, and chronically stressed, The Awakened Ape offers a refreshing and grounded perspective. Jevan Pradas blends evolutionary psychology, anthropology, and spiritual practice to explore a powerful question:
How can we live healthier, happier, and more meaningful lives in the modern world?
Why You Should Read It
Reconnect with Your Nature: Learn how to realign with your natural rhythms—through movement, diet, sleep, and connection.
Blends Science with Spirituality: Integrates mindfulness and emotional awareness into a holistic path to well-being.
Accessible and Reflective: Approachable writing that invites deep reflection.
A Blueprint for Balance: A thoughtful guide for anyone seeking simplicity and presence.
A Quote That Resonates:
“Happiness is our evolutionary birthright, not a pursuit.”
The Awakened Ape is a reminder that the answers to many of our modern problems may lie in ancient wisdom. It’s a book for anyone looking to simplify, reconnect, and live more fully—body, mind, and spirit.
3. SPIRITUALITY: The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
A Journey to the Soul
The Alchemist is more than just a novel—it’s a spiritual parable wrapped in a beautifully simple story. At its heart, it’s about following your dreams, listening to your heart, and trusting the journey, even when the path is uncertain.
The story follows Santiago, a young shepherd boy from Spain, who sets out in search of a hidden treasure he saw in a dream. Along the way, he meets a series of guides—each offering wisdom that nudges him closer not just to the treasure, but to self-discovery and spiritual awakening.
Why You Should Read It
Universal Wisdom: Filled with timeless truths about fear, faith, and purpose.
Beautiful Simplicity: Poetic and accessible writing that resonates deeply.
Encourages Inner Listening: A reminder that the answers we seek are often within us.
A Book to Revisit: Offers new meaning at different stages of life.
A Quote That Captures It:
“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
The Alchemist is a gentle but powerful reminder that the journey matters just as much as the destination. It’s a book for dreamers, seekers, and anyone standing at a crossroads in life.
4. RELATIONSHIPS: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray
Bridging the Communication Gap
First published in the early 1990s, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus remains one of the most well-known books on relationships. John Gray uses a simple but powerful metaphor: men and women are from different planets—each with their own emotional needs, communication styles, and ways of coping with stress.
Rather than focusing on blame or stereotypes, the book encourages understanding and empathy. It offers practical tools for improving communication, resolving conflict, and building deeper emotional connection.
Why You Should Read It
Improves Communication: Offers clear strategies for expressing needs and listening effectively.
Builds Emotional Intelligence: Helps readers recognize and respond to emotional patterns with compassion.
Timeless Relationship Wisdom: Core insights remain relevant across generations.
Great for All Relationships: Applies to romantic, familial, and even professional dynamics.
A Quote That Resonates:
“When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences, then love has a chance to blossom.”
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a guide to understanding before reacting, and listening before fixing. It’s a must-read for anyone who wants to strengthen their relationships through empathy, patience, and better communication.
