FOUR FOR FRIDAY 42: FIRST FRIDAY
“We do not learn from experience... we learn from reflecting on experience."
— John Dewey
A great quote. I truly believe that living with honest and humble reflection is one of the essential keys to creating the life you want. This week, try reflecting on the FOURM categories below. Remember—there’s no need for perfection, only sincerity and humility. With these two qualities, along with hope and commitment, I’ve found that most things become possible.
FOURM Check-In Instructions
Use this form to reflect on how you're feeling across the four realms of being. Below, you'll find space to share your thoughts in each category.
Before you begin, please write the date at the top. I recommend completing this check-in anywhere from once a month to once a quarter. Be honest with yourself—genuine reflection is the foundation of true growth and transformation.
Reflection Categories
- Wins: Achievements or positive experiences in the category.
- Work-Ons: Things you’d like to focus on more in the upcoming month to aid your growth journey.
Please add your own thoughts in each section below. As always, reach out with any questions.
Date ______________
SELF
Overall Rating (0-10) ________
Rate your level of fulfillment in this category, with 10 being completely fulfilled and 0 being the opposite.
Consider including thoughts on aspects you value related to your independent self. Here are some ideas to guide your reflection: work, including achievements, challenges, and goals; trips, such as memorable experiences and their impact on you; goals, noting progress toward personal goals; readings, including books or articles that have influenced you; learnings, such as new skills or knowledge acquired; and notable standouts, or any other significant events or accomplishments related to your individual growth.
Finances / Rating (0-10) ________
Job / Rating (0-10) ________
Goals / Rating (0-10) ________
REFLECTION
Action Items
HEALTH
Overall Rating (0-10) ________
Rate your level of fulfillment in this category, with 10 being completely fulfilled and 0 being the opposite.
This category includes aspects such as your physical health, diet, sleeping habits, exercise, and more. Feel free to include your own thoughts and ideas about what influences your health and energy levels.
Mental / Rating (0-10) ________
Physical / Rating (0-10) ________
Emotional / Rating (0-10) ________
REFLECTION
Action Items
SPIRITUALITY
Overall Rating (0-10) ________
Rate your level of fulfillment in this category, with 10 being completely fulfilled and 0 being the opposite.
Please reflect on what this realm means to you. Do you consider God, or any other forms of a higher being? What is your connection with faith, soul, spirit, and divinity? How do you connect with your soul? How have you been connecting with the deeper parts of yourself?
How
When
Where
REFLECTION
Action Items
RELATIONSHIPS
Overall Rating (0-10) ________
Rate your level of fulfillment in this category, with 10 being completely fulfilled and 0 being the opposite.
Consider how you think you have related in this category. This can include your roles as a parent, friend, colleague, son, partner, etc. Take time to reflect on how you have shown up relationally.
Family / Rating (0-10) ________
Friends / Rating (0-10) ________
Partnership / Rating (0-10) ________
REFLECTION
Action Items
